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Sinéad Was Not Just Right. She Was Right On.

8/20/2023

 
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"This must be one stupid broad. I'd kick her ass if she were a guy. She must beat her kids to stay in shape."
                                                                                                                                                                         -- Frank Sinatra
     Sinéad O'Connor died on July 26, 2023. Reading and hearing all the glowing tributes pouring in from celebrities and others, one could get the impression that everyone felt she was one of the most admired individuals of her time. Unfortunately, Sinéad was often dismissed, reviled and ostracized during her lifetime by many, including a number of those who praised her in death. But Sinéad was also loved and respected by millions, including the hundreds of thousands of clergy abuse survivors, myself included, who looked up to her for speaking truth to power regarding decades of horrific sexual abuse of children by the Catholic church. 
PicturePaul Fericano. at a SafeNet Gathering in Redwood City, California. August 20, 2023 Photo: Ted Bell
     On October 3, 1992, when she tore up a photograph of Pope John Paul II on national TV during an appearance on Saturday Night Live, her single and defiant act of protest became a watershed moment. Federal statistics would later estimate that, overall, there would be 580,000 child abuse cases that same year. Sinéad was not just right. She was right on. 

​     Like so many others, I was a personal witness to that historic moment, albeit from the safety and comfort of my living room. When Sinéad said "fight the real enemy" and threw the pieces of the pope’s photograph to the floor, I jumped to my feet and shouted “Right on!” At the time, I was in the throes of self-discovery, wrestling with the knowledge of my own childhood abuse by a Franciscan priest, and entering a long and painful process of recovery through therapy.
 
    On November 29, 1993, a little more than a year after
Sinéad's public protest, the provincial minister of the Franciscan Province of St. Barbara held a press conference in which he disclosed the report of a year-long independent investigation. The findings concluded that between the years 1964 and 1987, 34 young boys had been molested by 12 friars at St. Anthony’s Seminary, the Franciscans’ boarding school in Santa Barbara. At the time, it was the largest reported case of institutional clergy abuse in the country and it made front page news nationwide. I was one of those initial 34 boys, and the news that day filled me with a numb sense of relief and sorrow.
 
     In subsequent years, further investigations and multiple civil litigations would eventually reveal the deceit and the depth of the abuse that occurred at St. Anthony’s and it would include hundreds of survivors and dozens of Franciscan perpetrators. Many Individuals have understandably chosen to remain silent for a number of reasons, not the least of which is to spare themselves and their families from the real possibility of revictimization. But many others have chosen to come forward to share their stories, with some reporting abuses by clergy that have stretched back as far as the thirties and forties.  

 
     Today, far too many of us in this country find ourselves engulfed in a political and cultural war where deception and distraction are used to normalize, justify and make palpable the next big lies. A traumatized citizenry struggles as a whole to recover let alone make sense of the repeated breakdown of civil discourse and democratic principals. History may attempt to be rewritten by those who can never admit they are wrong about anything, but in the end, seeking truth is a moral imperative, a spiritual practice, a daily reminder to continue
Sinéad's call to fight the real enemy.  
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NOTE: In case there's an interest, the "Sinéad Was Right" t-shirt I'm wearing in the photo (above) is available for purchase exclusively from the good people at Latchkey in Philadelphia. 



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    A Room With A Pew is a thought-provoking column on clergy abuse and the healing process. Its content reflects the observations, opinions and experiences of Paul Fericano, a former student who attended Saint Anthony’s Seminary in Santa Barbara in the sixties, and a survivor of clergy sexual abuse. Fericano co-founded SafeNet in 2003, and returned to Santa Barbara that same year to assist the community in recovery. As a poet, satirist and author, he is actively engaged in advocacy, social justice and reconciliation efforts. He supports and encourages those who have been harmed by the Catholic church to explore the healing process, pursue justice with compassion, and to reclaim their past. He is the editor and co-founder of Yossarian Universal News Service (YU News Service), the nation's first parody news syndicate established in 1980. His spiritual practice includes challenging himself to look for humor in the shadows.

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    Memories of Better Days Persist
    Many St. Anthony's students have contacted me, and one asked about the barbershop, where he had sought refuge one day after his offender beat him. Read story.
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    WED., JANUARY 8, 2014
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    From Survival to Forgiveness
    In 1965 when I was 14 I was sexually abused at St. Anthony’s, a Catholic minor seminary in Santa Barbara operated by the Franciscan religious order. 
    Read story.
    by PAUL FERICANO
    THURS., DECEMBER 5, 2013

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